Comments on: News Flash: Sex is a Distraction http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 05 Aug 2010 15:59:50 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jacki Welsh http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-927 Jacki Welsh Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:15:30 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-927 Loved this post. Absolutely LOVED it. Loved this post. Absolutely LOVED it.

]]> By: Carrie Ross http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-582 Carrie Ross Fri, 24 Jul 2009 15:31:18 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-582 Holly - great post! I am in a similar position as you. I've been blazing away down the career path for most of my 20's and the past year, I've recognized that work is not the sole purpose for my existence. I've had my own health challenges and after some soul searching, have realized that we each have limits. There are only 24 hours in a day. I work hard while I'm in the office, but my responsibilities in life extend far beyond what goes on inside my cubicle walls. <br /><br />I applaud your honesty and your stance on this issue. There is nothing wrong with working hard. But, there does come a point when work can no longer be the *only* aspect of your life. You can be successful in your career without sacrificing everything to have it. Holly – great post! I am in a similar position as you. I've been blazing away down the career path for most of my 20's and the past year, I've recognized that work is not the sole purpose for my existence. I've had my own health challenges and after some soul searching, have realized that we each have limits. There are only 24 hours in a day. I work hard while I'm in the office, but my responsibilities in life extend far beyond what goes on inside my cubicle walls.

I applaud your honesty and your stance on this issue. There is nothing wrong with working hard. But, there does come a point when work can no longer be the *only* aspect of your life. You can be successful in your career without sacrificing everything to have it.

]]> By: Diva http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-581 Diva Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:32:52 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-581 Did you just speak my mind? Yes, you did. I just started a new job and while my career is booming my love life is just doomed. <br /><br />Oh well, I would pick my career over a guy anyway. I am already loving your blog. Please blog some more. <br /><br />Cheers Did you just speak my mind? Yes, you did. I just started a new job and while my career is booming my love life is just doomed.

Oh well, I would pick my career over a guy anyway. I am already loving your blog. Please blog some more.

Cheers

]]> By: Toxic Brit http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-580 Toxic Brit Fri, 13 Mar 2009 23:31:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-580 I admire your quest, its like 40 days and 40 nights !<br/><br/>I've always found finding someone equally driven is probably the best way to go. Hope you're well! I admire your quest, its like 40 days and 40 nights !

I’ve always found finding someone equally driven is probably the best way to go. Hope you’re well!

]]> By: Akirah http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-579 Akirah Fri, 06 Feb 2009 12:37:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-579 I totally agree. Actually, I kinda assumed that this was a given. I know how exhausting dating people you don't see a future with can be. I've been there, done that and it's distracting as hell. It's all about balance...most people want healthy relationships AND stimulating careers, but sometimes we go through seasons of life where we'll have to put one of those things on the backburner in order to get what we want out of life. And of course, this is a personal decision. I totally agree. Actually, I kinda assumed that this was a given. I know how exhausting dating people you don’t see a future with can be. I’ve been there, done that and it’s distracting as hell. It’s all about balance…most people want healthy relationships AND stimulating careers, but sometimes we go through seasons of life where we’ll have to put one of those things on the backburner in order to get what we want out of life. And of course, this is a personal decision.

]]> By: Your Ill-fitting Overcoat http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-578 Your Ill-fitting Overcoat Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:37:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-578 <b>Akirah -</b><br/><br/>I can't speak for the blogger here, obviously, but my feeling is that having a healthy relationship with a loving partner is very different from casual, dead-end dating. The former builds you up and provides support, and though you will sometimes have struggles that require sacrifice, <i>it's worth it</i>.<br/><br/>What's probably not worth it are the dead-end relationships with people I <i>know</i> in my heart are not right for me, but I'm too lazy or too afraid of being alone to cut it off. Those relationships go nowhere and they zap time and energy from our lives. I've seen it happen to so many amazing women-- they start having issues with a flighty boyfriend and suddenly they're showing up late to work, skipping the gym, cutting out extra-curricular activities, and carving a wedge into their friendships with other women. It <i>sucks</i> and I think that's what the blogger is talking about.<br/><br/>If you have a healthy, loving relationship or a drama-free friends-with-benefits-- that's awesome! And you should stick with what works for you. Akirah -

I can’t speak for the blogger here, obviously, but my feeling is that having a healthy relationship with a loving partner is very different from casual, dead-end dating. The former builds you up and provides support, and though you will sometimes have struggles that require sacrifice, it’s worth it.

What’s probably not worth it are the dead-end relationships with people I know in my heart are not right for me, but I’m too lazy or too afraid of being alone to cut it off. Those relationships go nowhere and they zap time and energy from our lives. I’ve seen it happen to so many amazing women– they start having issues with a flighty boyfriend and suddenly they’re showing up late to work, skipping the gym, cutting out extra-curricular activities, and carving a wedge into their friendships with other women. It sucks and I think that’s what the blogger is talking about.

If you have a healthy, loving relationship or a drama-free friends-with-benefits– that’s awesome! And you should stick with what works for you.

]]> By: Akirah http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-577 Akirah Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:29:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-577 Hmm. Do you mean that the emotions that are tied to sex are distracting? I can see that point. Sex and anything resembling a relationship can and will eventually become distracting at some point. I almost started crying in my cubicle today at work because of some things my boyfriend and I are being faced with. Without him, I'd probably be way more successful in the working world...but I'm happy with the balance I've found between him and my career. <br/><br/>Besides, my career won't keep me warm at night. Hmm. Do you mean that the emotions that are tied to sex are distracting? I can see that point. Sex and anything resembling a relationship can and will eventually become distracting at some point. I almost started crying in my cubicle today at work because of some things my boyfriend and I are being faced with. Without him, I’d probably be way more successful in the working world…but I’m happy with the balance I’ve found between him and my career.

Besides, my career won’t keep me warm at night.

]]> By: Just Curious http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-576 Just Curious Wed, 21 Jan 2009 20:28:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-576 I really cannot understand how anyone would take you too seriously by your lack of personal boundaries.<br/><br/>Your posts are not open and honest as much as they lack discretion.<br/><br/>You seem to be a very intelligent and attractive person. Why are you wanting to mess that all up? I really cannot understand how anyone would take you too seriously by your lack of personal boundaries.

Your posts are not open and honest as much as they lack discretion.

You seem to be a very intelligent and attractive person. Why are you wanting to mess that all up?

]]> By: dadshouse http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-575 dadshouse Fri, 16 Jan 2009 19:40:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-575 You said sex is fleeting. Well, everything in life is fleeting. Everything arises, falls, and dissipates back to the nothingness from which it came. Sex just does this more quickly (10 minutes, an hour, a night...) than business school, or career.<br/><br/>Who's to say what's more important? When you're 80, will you look back and say "I'm so glad I gave up sex in pursuit of my career", -or- "damn, why did I give up sex?"<br/><br/>As for women putting career first: Pulitzer Winner Laura Sessions Stepp wrote a book about it: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/02/29/hooking-up-i-just-want-to-be-your-lover/<br/><br/>But her point isn't to give up one-night-stands. Her point is to allow yourself to enter into relationships. It's part of the human experience.<br/><br/>ALL THAT SAID - the most important thing is for you to make your own choices, be at peace with yourself, be happy. It sounds like you are trying to take a more centered and balanced approach to your life, and that's great. You said sex is fleeting. Well, everything in life is fleeting. Everything arises, falls, and dissipates back to the nothingness from which it came. Sex just does this more quickly (10 minutes, an hour, a night…) than business school, or career.

Who’s to say what’s more important? When you’re 80, will you look back and say “I’m so glad I gave up sex in pursuit of my career”, -or- “damn, why did I give up sex?”

As for women putting career first: Pulitzer Winner Laura Sessions Stepp wrote a book about it: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/02/29/hooking-up-i-just-want-to-be-your-lover/

But her point isn’t to give up one-night-stands. Her point is to allow yourself to enter into relationships. It’s part of the human experience.

ALL THAT SAID – the most important thing is for you to make your own choices, be at peace with yourself, be happy. It sounds like you are trying to take a more centered and balanced approach to your life, and that’s great.

]]> By: Lance http://worklovelife.com/2009/01/news-flash-sex-is-a-distraction/comment-page-1/#comment-574 Lance Wed, 14 Jan 2009 05:56:00 +0000 http://holly.andrewnorcross.com/?p=82#comment-574 Yo, just blogged my response: <br/>http://honeyandlance.com/is-sex-a-distraction-or-should-we-all-just-get-laid Yo, just blogged my response:
http://honeyandlance.com/is-sex-a-distraction-or-should-we-all-just-get-laid

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